We've all probably done it. Recently, I've tried to put a stop to ever doing it again. But I'm sure I'm in the minority. I'm referring to that cunning ninja-like disappearing act some girls (and I know guys do, too. Remember, I'm writing from my perspective) do after a date that didn't go well.
It hasn't happened to me very often, but it has happened enough for me to notice. Every now and then I'll go out on a first date with a girl that I met on an online dating site, or through some other means. And if after meeting I decide I like the girl, I'll usually send her a text message afterwards that says something generic like "I had fun" or "lets do it again sometime," or something. And then the dark clouds come, and begin to pour rain as I wait for a response that just does not show up. Sometimes I'll send another text the next day, and if I'm feeling really reluctant to give up hope, I'll even send a third text. But it happens, 3 texts, and not a single one in return. That's so annoying. Not the fact that she wasn't into me, that's a normal part of everyone's life. What peeves me is when the girl won't even take the minute it takes to send the text that says "hey let's be friend" or "I wish you good luck with everything," ya know, something that gets the point across. At least then I'll know the reality of the situation, and be able to move along faster.
I know its a tough thing to do (I've had to do it). No one wants to hurt another person's feelings. And there's the anxiety that if you do that, they might text back in some classless manner, and either demand answers, or have some choice negative words about your intelligence and any and everything else. And no one wants to deal with that. But if you're not interested in someone, I think the classy thing to do is to let them know. It's really not a big deal.
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