Girls don't know

I'm thinking that women don't really know what they want.  That, or they are lying to themselves.  I'm talking about when they say they don't want a "douche bag" or "low-life."  As I look around, and I see pretty girl after pretty girl attached at the arm of some lanky, unshaven, unkept, white tank-top wearing substance-abuser, I think to myself, "don't pretend like you have high standards, you insist on being the 'property' of some fast food jockey!" (nothing against fastfood jockies, they work hard.)

  This isn't even really about the whole "bad-boy vs good-guy" argument, either.  It's a matter of girls preferring to date guys who have no class.  The guys who open doors, pay for dinner, and say please and thank you are merely gimmicks to many women.  They complain when guys don't do these things, but they pass almost every time on the guys who actually do these things.

  My analysis?  Women have low self-esteem.  Even pretty girls, I'm thinking they suffer from low self-esteem and insecurity, as well.  They will date a person who has the same amount of class as them, only they won't admit it.  If a pretty girl who doesn't really, truly believe in herself has an opportunity to date an actual gentleman, who has no interest in getting drunk and knows how to tie a tie, she'll pass on him because she doesn't feel like she's actually good enough.  And the fear of letting her inadaquecies show to a "distinguished gentleman" is too much for her to risk.  So if she dates ol' hood-wearin' "Spike" over there, who's qualities fall far inferior to her own, then she is safe.  She is free to be comfortable and confident around him, nag him to achieve more, and complain about him to keep him at bay.  Girls must be scared to death of a guy who has his stuff together.

  This is merely my stab at the subject, I claim no facts here.  I just wish that more women would be comfortable sharing and showing their short-comings, and attempt to be with a guy she will actually respect.  The guy and girl should succeed and fail together.  And there should be enough comfort and trust in the relationship for both parties to actually be themselves.