Good for a day or two

When I buy milk, I always check the expiration date.  I look for the milk with the expiration date furthest from that day (duh), so I usually have to do a little extra work by reaching my arm way behind all the milk cartons in the front, and pulling one out from the back.  I do the same with orange juice, eggs, bread, you name it.  And then when I get home, I take a pen and write on my wall calender when these products expire.  More than half of the time, the food goes bad before I had a chance to eat them. I usually eat at least half of the product before I throw them out, though.

When it comes to dating, sometimes I feel like I have an expiration date.  I'll date a girl for about a week or so, and she will think that I am the best guy who has ever walked the earth.  She'll call me, she'll text me, she'll express to me how badly she wants to see me.  And I live it up with her for about a week, usually more like 2 weeks.  Sometimes even a month or two.  But then after a certain (usually short) time passes, it's as if I just "go bad."  And by "go bad," I don't mean I make some huge mistake like calling her by the wrong name, or make fun of her family or anything.  I just sort of "expire."  I'm not good anymore, so I have to be thrown out.  Just because a certain amount of time has passed.

I don't really get it.  I'm not depressed about it or anything, just a bit puzzled.  It may be a defense mechanism, but to be honest, I don't see it as a problem with me.  I'm thinking it's more of a flaw with these girls.  They don't guard their hearts.  They may desire so much to fall head over hills for someone that they just start to do it without first thinking if the relationship has the strength to go the distance.  I think these girls I meet just selfishly want to be in love to make themselves feel good.  Which, to be honest, I don't see how anyone does otherwise.  Love can be a pretty selfish thing.  The best love is of course selfless, unconditional love.
"Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends."  - Jesus Christ

     Romantic love is desired, hunted, and sometimes eventually captured as a result of this personal and selfish desire.  And this desire is what causes people to use people, unintentionally lie to people, and sometimes lie to ourselves.  My advice to myself, the girls I date, and anyone else listening is to slow down.  Think about the subject, and think about the person you are acquainting yourself with.  If you believe in it, pursue it.  If you don't believe in it, then don't pursue it.