Thoughts And Expressions, I return to you.  It's only been what, 3, 4 years?  Surely nothing has happened during that time, right?

I had a girlfriend, we were in a relationship for nearly a year.  We fought all the time, so we broke up.  But after we broke up, we still hung out a few days later, and enough time did not pass so that we now identified ourselves as merely friends.  We were still in the habit and mind-set of identifying ourselves as a couple, except we also had a head knowledge that we had broken up.  Yet still, touch was still familiar and comfortable, candid talking was still the norm, and the idea of talking about relationships with other people was still frowned on.  She and I went from starting out as friends, becoming a couple, and then being stuck in a web of being emotionally attached where we knew there was no future.  Friends, don't do this.  If you are going to break up with someone, do it, and give the situation some time and space, and then revisit the friendship.

Being friends with an ex is possible and good for you IF done correctly.  But every relationship needs to be clearly defined.  You will make yourself miserable if you find yourself in a relationship that is not clearly defined.  Life is fun and exciting and we love unexpected mysteries unfolding as we fly through it, but having a relationship with no defined limits or expectations can be heart-wrenching.  Don't do it.  Move your life forward.

After all of the confusion, we're in a good place of friendship.  You have to allow yourself to be honest with someone, and potentially hurt their feelings.  Love your neighbors like you love yourself.  Live your life freely, and allow others to do the same.